What can I expect when I start counseling?

Dear Martin Counseling therapists,
I’m a little nervous about seeing a counselor. What can I expect when I start?”

The first therapy session can be really anxiety-provoking and scary! Clients don't know me, and I don't know them. In a first therapy session, this is my goal, to get to know you as a person. Yes, I want to know what brought you in, but I also want to know hobbies, the music you like, and other interests you may have. You are a whole person, and I want to know that. I also want to make sure you know what sessions may look like; I will orient you through the process, what to expect, and I want feedback around what's helpful and what's not. We are in this together.

Elizabeth Befort, LCSW
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One question I often get asked is whether or not a parent should join for their child's first therapy session. While the focus of the therapy may be helping the child/teenager, it is important that we are all on the same page on a variety of topics. This could range from family history to confidentiality limits with minors to goals for therapy. I try to also have some time with the minor so that they can speak freely if they are uncomfortable saying something in front of the parent.

Ashley Forster, M.Ed. LPC-S
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One thing I hear from wives who are trying to get their husbands to seek couples counseling is that their husbands are hesitant or even refuse to go because they have heard horror stories of other men who feel like they were beaten up by the counselor. This is a valid concern and one that, as a husband, a counselor, and a man, I am aware and respectful of. Couples counseling is painful enough without feeling like you’re being beaten up for just trying to live your life. You can expect me to hold both of you in the same regard. I follow the rule that the only place a couples counselor should choose sides is at Texas Roadhouse.

Dave M. Clark MS LPC- Associate
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When first starting therapy, it is important that you know you control the session. It is important for you to know that you only have to speak about things that you are comfortable speaking about and that you may not feel ready to speak on any deeper concerns until you are comfortable with your therapist. It can be helpful to write down any questions you have before the session, as well as any concerns you have. Your therapist is going to walk you through informed consent and make sure you have a good understanding of your rights and responsibilities, as well as your therapist's responsibilities to you. The therapist is probably going to ask you about yourself, your background, and you may complete some questionnaire-style paperwork that is going to be your therapist's first sample of data regarding any assessment.
The therapist may talk to you about beginning to think about some goals that you would like to achieve from counseling. Your counselor will work with you and guide you through everything you do and is always ready and willing to answer your questions.

Jess Parker, MA LPC-Associate
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If you feel like you need to speak to a professional counselor, please give us a call at Martin Counseling 713-489-5473